What Makes A Leader Toxic?

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The idea of Chemistry in Leadership is an intriguing one, but not for the reasons you may think.

My memories of chemistry class in high school are getting foggy, but I do remember this: it was just as important to know what chemicals did not mix as it was to know which ones did. I remember being warned about how disastrous it would be to mix acids with cyanide salts – because a highly toxic hydrogen cyanide gas gets created…. (mental note : don’t do that)toxicleader

In leadership – just as in chemistry – it is important to know what combination of things creates a toxic leader.

You will find scads of information on the Internet about what makes an effective leader, but there is relatively little consensus; opinions differ greatly depending on what body of research you’re reading.  On the other hand, I think most of us intuitively know what an effective leader is not.

An Obsession with Optics

I have worked under leadership obsessed with optics, unconcerned about what is really happening but obsessed with how things appear to the masses.

Over time, this posture chips away at passion and innovation and creates a culture of people with a checkbox mentality.

An obsession with optics blunts growth and fails to cultivate the seeds of success.

I cannot fathom how leaders who aren’t concerned with reality expect to lead others into anything meaningful.

Arrogance

The textbook definition of arrogance paints a perfect picture: an arrogant person makes “claims or pretentions to superior importance or rights; overbearingly assuming; insolently proud”.

Arrogance is not confidence.

Arrogance pushes people away.

Arrogance lacks the humility chip entirely.

On the other hand, confidence and humility are both compelling and valuable.

Ignorance

Some would argue for the cliché “ignorance is bliss” and assert that a lack of self-awareness doesn’t really harm other people. I would argue that nothing could be further from the truth.

Ignorance is the root cause of more pain and damage in this world than almost anything else.

In leadership, ignorance is not bliss – it is insidious, potent, and harmful.

Untrustworthy

When was the last time you wanted to follow someone you couldn’t trust?

It just doesn’t happen.

Trustworthy leaders create an environment that is safe and when people feel safe, they begin to show you who they really are. And that is a breeding ground for creativity and passion.

Untrustworthy leaders may lead for a while, but their leadership is counterfeit and eventually it will catch up with them.

Ambivalence

Sometimes it is the omission of behavior or decision making that makes a leader toxic. We respect people who can articulate their perspective and own their decisions, even if we don’t agree with them.

Ambivalence, on the other hand, breeds mediocrity.

Poor communication skills

The best leaders are people who know when to push, pull, listen, and speak.

They read people and respond accordingly.

They communicate expectations clearly and respectfully and provide constructive feedback specifically addressing the performance issue, not a person’s character.

Lack of Accountability

Bad leaders point fingers when things don’t go as expected and are quick to take credit when they do; their chief concern is building themselves up, even at the cost of others.

Great leaders understand the need to build and equip others; they know how to foster greatness in others.

They intuitively understand the power of personal accountability as don’t pretend to be perfect.

Most of us have deep longing to be part of something bigger than ourselves.

We are easily seduced by the promise of something more compelling because we all want to make a difference; we want our lives to mean something so we follow others – even toxic leaders.

Sometimes because we have practical needs – like mouths feed, but sometimes it’s because following is easier than having these tough conversations.

Whatever the reason, we often ignore these warning signs or even encourage this toxic behavior… and the result is often disastrous, just as in chemistry.

We only need a quick history lesson to understand the epic fallout of bad chemistry in leadership.

Who knew chemistry would be so relevant outside a lab?

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Cate Moore

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Cate Moore is an author, senior sales professional, & entrepreneur with over 17 years of experience in medicine and small business. She is the author of several popular e-Books about authenticity, entrepreneurship, and beauty - and is best known for her downloadable EPIC guide: “I’m not beautiful like you, I’m beautiful like me.” She is the past president and founder of Tru Vitality Clinic, a medical spa with an iconoclastic business model as well as a holistic approach to aging gracefully.
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  • April 28, 2014

    AlaskaChickBlog

    Wow Cate! Powerful stuff here today. 
    What an amazing and inspiring post. I feel as if you have refueled me for …more than another day or week, but for and with PURPOSE. Thank you for this and thank you to whatever inspired the words inside you to share it with us.
    Truly.

  • May 21, 2014

    gingerconsult

    TRU_Vitality You are too modest Cate. :) You are a big part of the team pm0721 #bealeader

  • May 21, 2014

    pm0721

    gingerconsult TRU_Vitality agreed. Cate, you do play a big part in creating awareness and discussion.

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