In my opinion, the biggest pay back you can ever receive is from helping someone else overcome some obstacle preventing success in their personal or professional life. In other words your success is my reward.
This is my personal spin on Leading with Grace.
In a corporate environment we are paid for helping; in my case I am a “solution specialist” helping companies solve whatever they need to solve (generalization here…). I am well compensated, but beyond the monetary compensation, the “real” payback is; problem solved, company successful, merger or IPO or even just back on the track to profitable. That’s often a big just…..
In a mentoring relationship, I expect those I mentor to work very smart and/or hard, paying me back for my time and expertise by being successful, or at least accomplishing what they set out to accomplish under my mentorship.
In a Leadership scenario, the ideal payback is of course, more leaders. An example of this is where you as a Leader have helped someone else to take over the leadership from you, go on to lead their own thing successfully, or help others to do so. I view leadership as a relay race, where the baton of leadership gets passed on, and on and on… This was the focus of Leadership America an initiative I was associated with in the early ‘90s; one of the first leadership organizations focused on developing leadership skills in women; women helping women break through the ‘glass ceiling’ of the corporate hierarchy.
My passion for developing Leadership is one reason I have aligned myself with #bealeader, and the very powerful concept of “leading from where you are” is more than just about developing leaders; it’s about developing the realization that people already have areas where they are leading; that they are a leader in their own space.
So often I hear, I could never be a leader…. Yet on closer inspection the person who says this actually has some very compelling leadership skills and they are using them everyday. Managing (leading) a family, fundraising for a local non-profit, leading the local community to overturn unnecessary government intrusion, helping a senior go online, and just getting the job done over and over again!
So how can we help others to discover and pay attention to their own personal internal leader?
- Define your goals: develop your own leadership skills and those of others.
- Align your self: with a group, a community, or organization which resonates with the “leadership” in you (there are a zillion communities out there: focus on one or two and contribute where you can be the most effective)
- Educate: writing (of course you can to contribute here ) webinars, seminars, workshops, conferences and family get-togethers; and don’t discount how early the idea of leading with grace can be developed in children…. It’s surely the most potent antidote to the “sense of entitlement” disease rampant in society today!
You have heard the Social Media mantra “give to get”, which so often unfortunately means “only give when you get (personal rant). Leading with grace is about focusing on the giving not the getting, and as you focus on the success of others, that becomes your reward!