Be The Master Of Your Own Ego

Over the course time, we have all heard that “ego” is bad. A big ego can damage you and others around you. Let’s stop the presses here. Ego is necessary. Ego is good and let’s stops pretending in the name of being “humble” that we do not have a bit of a big ego within each of us.  The truth, as hard it is for some to hear, is that ego is gives us strength and allows to have pride in ourselves. There is nothing wrong with being proud of your true self and accomplishments. If we didn’t have ego – for one thing – the internet would also be very dull. Ego allows us to seize opportunities where others might miss the cue or feel the risk is too great to try to put effort in their ideas.

There is a difference between healthy ego and narcissism. Narcissists have a hard time hearing others above the roar of their own power trip. Ego brings out our confidence.  With confidence in ourselves, we can appreciate the success of others without being threaten. With narcissism, you never can truly empathize with the pain or success of others and never be able to relate to others on any level. Narcissist have difficult path to loving others as much as they love themselves.

Ego should be embraced; it should be used to wield power over others.  If you feel that you are above others, if you see yourself as being too cool for school as it were, you can be alienated from the pack.

One of the best things about having a healthy ego is that it can inspire you to reach greater heights.  Let that sink in.  If you are happy with your life, enjoy it.  Let the world know that you are winning in life. There is nothing wrong with proclaiming how inspired you have become by the world around you.  Use your ego as motivation to keep going.  Our ego grows when we allow ourselves to receive compliments. To really receive and feel the emotions of having our work, our purpose rewarded.  Take comments in stride. Use these moments to build your ego and let yourself rejoice in the moment.

A healthy ego can be our  friend.  Never let anyone steal your joy, rather, you control how you perceive others.  The ying and yang of ego is that we can use it to our advantage but not to lord over others. We can be proud of ourselves, but we cannot take that pride as a way to become unsportsmanlike in our lives. Ego is our friend, not our enemy if we embrace it in a positive way.

Jennifer Olney
Over the course of my career, I have been sought after by numerous organizations to bring my talents in the arenas of sales, marketing and business development. As the Founder and Director of Business BEALEADER, I bring my experience to the table to expand the knowledge base for those seeking to find their own leader within. In 2011, I created BEALEADER to be a platform for individuals to share their expertise and leadership to make others better by being a resource of business, career and marketing solutions for those who are just starting out or maybe have a “few” years under their belt and need keep their skills fresh. In addition to the BEALEADER platform, I have developed the business units BEALEADER Business Services, which provides marketing, business development and human resource management services and BEALEADER Executive Coaching Services, which provides one on one and group coaching services to executives and individuals. These business units expand our ability and brand to make others better as we reach out to our audience with these unique product offerings. In 2014, I was named to the Inc.com list of Top 101 Leadership Speakers and I have written for several publications such as Yahoo! Small Business, Business 2 Community and others. I have also co-hosted several podcasts and in 2015 will be hosting the BEALEADER podcast for our audience as well.
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  • January 27, 2013

    profkrg

    I like the distinction you made between ego and narcissism. It really is key. You should have an ego. I agree, you must to recognize your strengths.

  • January 28, 2013

    dadofdivas (@dadofdivas)

    I like the point that a healthy ego is healthy for all of us to have…. good point and great post!

  • January 28, 2013

    Jennifer Olney

    Thanks. It comes back to self awareness. If we are aware of our strengths and weaknesses, we are more in tune to others and how we are perceived.

  • January 28, 2013

    Jennifer Olney

    Thanks. I believe we need to stop giving ego a bad wrap and embrace its power

  • January 28, 2013

    Ted Rubin

    Hear, hear!

  • January 28, 2013

    Jennifer Olney

    Thanks, Ted.

  • January 30, 2013

    Suzie Carr

    The distinction you made between confidence and narcissism is wonderful. Many times we’re taught that ego is a bad thing. But viewed through the confidence lens, it can be beneficial. Thanks for the inspiration!

  • January 30, 2013

    Jennifer Olney

    Thanks, Suzie. There is seems to be bad rap ego takes when it is not deserved. We need our ego to give us the confidence within. I think what happens is that we are trained through the bad behavior of those who have yet to harness the power of ego for good rather than evil so speak. Thanks for your comment.

  • February 2, 2013

    billdorman

    Tru dat; it’s all about being comfortable in your own skin and your abilities and acting with confidence. No, you don’t have to be perfect, but be willing to learn and being ‘just smart enough.’

  • February 2, 2013

    Jennifer Olney

    Thanks, Bill. Very true. We have to be comfortable with ourselves and let our truth within guide us.